If your puppy or dog isn’t coming when called you may eventually discover that they won’t do other things you ask! A dog who does not come is in need of what I call, “respect work.”
If your pup won’t come that means that he is already leading the relationship in his mind. I hate to break this to you (who am I kidding…I love teaching) but your dog’s disobedience of the “come” or “here” command is actually a much bigger deal than you originally thought!
And what with the accelerated growth rate of our pups you will probably discover (if you look into it) many accelerated manipulations of the personal space around your pup. Once a pup has control over his own body and his own personal space there is nothing to stop him from expanding his territory to other things in his environment.
Example from the mind of your puppy: “Since my owner lets me claim my paws and my tail maaaaaaaaaybe I’ll just start (little by little) to claim my whole back half and not let them pet me there. And after that maybe I’ll begin to (ever so slightly) manipulate, claim, and control my own toys and how I play with my owners. I will play only on my terms. While I manipulate these things to my advantage I will actively be testing and attempting to out-touch, out-mouth, and outmaneuver my owners to see how good they are at communicating in my language (to see if they mean what they say and where the boundary lines are)!”
Do you see where this can lead? (Dominance, Hyperactivity, Fearfulness, Aggression, etc) For those of you who don’t believe in “dominance” you can feel free to put whatever foolish human word you would prefer using to describe a dog that is out of control, wants to take over, doesn’t want to obey, and is basically rude and running the show! Let’s continue…
The real answers lie in first identifying all the subtle manipulations that our pups get away with and then knowing how to stop them. This is where I can help. (On this note please keep an eye out for our training/whispering videos and my future book!!! I know they will really help many people)
I don’t have time in this short blog post to go into every subtle puppy manipulation that could be happening in your case because it would be like trying to learn an entire language from a simple blog article. It cannot be done. However, if you follow my four ways to strengthen your puppies recall this can greatly help stop your loving pup from acting like such a brat and prevent him from growing that bratty behavior into serious future behavioral issues.
- Never call an unreliable dog. This means avoid the temptation to say, “Come” or, “Here” to your dog or pup! Don’t do it. Keep your mouth closed! [Please read our post entitled Shut your mouth if you want to talk with Mother Nature] This is an extremely hard rule to follow for us as humans! Be aware you probably will fail at this from time to time. That’s OK if it’s only happening a few times…it is totally unacceptable and foolhardy if it becomes a practice. Sadly, it usually is practiced and it gives our pups the ability to simply, defiantly give us the doggy middle finger by clearly disagreeing with our recall command!
2. Use the leash. The leash should be your best friend if you’ve got a puppy or dog who will not come. Have them wear it much more often. Have them drag it around the house for hours at a time. The leash will slow them down a bit (both mentally and physically). If your pup is on leash and you want to say, “Come” or give a recall command by all means go ahead because now (on leash) you can easily disagree when he disagrees with you by not coming.
If your pup won’t come after you’ve given the command and he is on leash -Give a quick or short tug and then gesture into the recall position. Remember, dogs prefer body language to verbal language. He will begin to come toward you. As soon as he starts towards you verbally praise a little and upon his finishing a clean “Come” command (meaning the pup’s head is almost touching your knees and he is directly in front of you) verbally praise more and be sure to pet and touch your pup. You should be raising your energy and the tone of your voice…we are adding excitement and making coming to us worth it in the mind of the pup. (This is rare because most other commands and just how we live our lives in general we always strive to lower the energy and we are typically looking for the animal to remain stationary -sit, down, stay or just calm depending on whether we are actively training or passively whispering).
3. Use a toy and develop the pup’s prey drive
Using a toy should be when the dog is at his highest level of energy! We want the pup really engaged and snapping at the tug or rope! If you develop your pup’s natural prey drive you can quickly work a very reliable recall and you can get several repetitions in!
Imagine you have a dog who loves to play fetch and chase the ball or stick. Now imagine how easy it could be if every time your dog (who loves to play fetch) learns that the second half of that game is the same exact body movement as performing the “come” or “here” command. It can be extremely easy if we don’t allow all the social manipulations to creep in.
The problem is most people aren’t even aware of what they are. Do you know why? Because most behaviorists and trainers can’t identify the manipulations either!!! Shocking, I know, but it is the sad truth. (Don’t worry though, I’ve got a book coming out that will help identify and prevent or reverse each and every manipulation that your dog or puppy may attempt!)
4. Use a food treat.
Make sure you don’t bribe your puppy. Reward. Never bribe. There is a difference! And don’t overdo the treats. Like the name implies they should be supplemental and occasional. I always ask my clients, “When’s the last time you had cheesecake?” Get the point?! It’s a treat not a constant.
PS. If your pup can’t fetch or doesn’t bring it back because he’s attempting to manipulate control of the game and his personal space then take my advice and start playing a close game of tug of war. It will give you a chance to actually be a player in the game and it will keep the pup close and in your space. And then you can teach the dog many other things like how to calm down and energy control, the “drop it” or “give” command and other vital spacial communication.
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